Ah, I am an Idiot
I also agree, it is what makes sw's more impactful than other genres. I do feel that the abuse women get in sw's is the one thing that I cringe at at times. Face To Face comes to mind, Fletcher beats & then 'takes' the woman of his choice & then she hangs all over him & everything is cool. Huh?!
My choice is Garko in 100,000/Vengeance. He has a rough time over the final 20 minutes, beat-stretched-beat-hung upside down. All while watching his love, dying, crawling to his aide. Pretty sadistic.